Robbed

My purse was stolen. Within a 12 hour window from me entering my hostel dorm at 7:30 pm to waking up at 7 am it was stolen.

The hostel did nothing. They stared blankly at me when I asked what the protocol was for reporting a theft. They said they had none and were confused when I asked to speak to a manger for advice and even more confused when I asked to report it to the police.

They didn’t offer sympathy or compassion. They didn’t advise me on what I should do to get money (seeing as my cash and credit cards were in my purse). They didn’t so much as blink when I said the word “stolen”.

The people in my room refused to help me look. One even said “that’s a shame it’s missing” and left. I know it’s my responsibility but I had zero compassion from anyone that day.

The police were more helpful. They listened to me, they checked I’d cancelled my cards and they checked I had enough cash to get me back to LA before I fly home in a couple of days. They filled in and gave me a report so I can at least contact my insurance company.

The purse was old and damaged but there was a lot of sentimental value to it. I’m upset the $56 I had in it was gone but more so the fact something with no financial value but lots of sentimental value is gone and I’ll never see it again.

I was always smart, I packed my bags each night and would lock them away until the morning. I know I had the purse in my room as I would keep my room key in it to avoid losing that so I needed my purse to get into my room. But these things happen and between me entering the room and waking up it went. Whether it was pinched from my bag right before I locked my bag away or it was on my bed accidentally…I don’t know…but i know it was stolen.

Two girls basically ran as soon as I announced my purse was missing. No one offered to help me look but I can’t jump to conclusions. I’ve accepted it was taken and that the roommates and staff weren’t going to help me. I dealt with it the best way I knew by reporting it to the police and contacting various banks etc.

I feel violated. I hated the rest of my time in that hostel even though I only had one more night to spend. I was lucky to have emergency cash in my rucksack (thanks Dad for sending that to me!) and I basically ran away to the airport this morning as soon as I could. Rather sit here for 6 hours then spend longer in that room with staff and travellers who have no compassion.

I’m also lucky nothing else on my travels in the USA is reliant on my credit card. I’m staying in an air b n b and when I explained the situation to them they offered to get me cash if I transferred some to them. They told me they’d cook me dinner so I don’t need to worry about food and damn that made me feel so good, made me feel cared for by strangers.

My friends, boyfriend and family are finding ways to help me get money for my European travels that start on Friday. I have 12 hours in London but my replacement credit cards won’t arrive by then and I have to go get a replacement SIM card too (I bought a US one and kept my UK one in my purse).

I’m lucky nothing else was stolen. I have my passport and my phone but regardless of whether my purse was in my bag or on my bed that doesn’t give anyone the right to pick it up and not hand it in.

In the morning I felt very unstable ED-wise. I’m proud nothing negative happened on that front although it was hard to shut down the voice telling me I was stupid, that I’d fucked up, that it was all my fault.

It’s not my fault.

It’s a really shit thing that has happened to me and I’ve been able to deal with it in the correct way so that’s all that matters.

Guess I just needed to rant to someone, anyone who would actually listen.

5 thoughts on “Robbed

  1. thats terrible.
    no wonder your ED is activated.

    Ive never had belongings stolen while travelling, but my place has been broken into and the violation, fear, and self blame is so real.
    i relate to your experience.

    it is NOT your fault.

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    • Thank you 🙂

      I am usually so very very careful (and was) with my belongings which made it frustrating, especially when people kept telling me how careful I need to be!

      I’m glad to be gone but was surprised just how affected I was the last couple of days. Way more stressed than I expected to be but at least I’m dealing with the ED effects as healthily as I can xx

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      • Even if you were not being “careful” it still is not your fault/responsibility.
        Like you could have left your wallet open with cold hard cash on your bed and walked away and it still wouldn’t have been your fault that someone else made a choice to rob from you.
        But I hear how frustrating it is when you do all the “right” things and bad things still happen 😦

        Being invaded like that is really disturbing. I’m not surprised you are affected as you are. It will pass but please be kind to yourself in the meantime!

        When are you home/with people you feel safe with?

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      • You’re completely right. No one should pick up and take something that’s not theirs.

        I fly home this evening so I basically will have had 3/4 days on my own since it happened. I’ve then got two weeks on holiday with my boyfriend which I’m really looking forward to and should be nice and relaxing ☺️

        Thanks for all your kind words today, it’s been really helpful in keeping me kind to Mysore

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